Sunday, November 23, 2003

November 23, 2003

     Oh my!  The busy times we have been having!  ZoraLin has brought us great joy, we have moved to Texas, Zora started to walk the same time we moved and Rae has given up sucking her thumb and just the past two weeks is Potty trained!!

     Another child has always been in my heart.  Actually, I could add several kids to our home!  However, the pull for another child from China has been very strong for me.

     September 6th Mark, the girls and I attended Culture Day in Dallas.  As we were looking at all the info there that day, we met Brenda Eckols from Adoption-A Give of Love Adoption agency from Denton, TX.  AGOL also brings children to the USA to have surgeries.  One child's picture jumped off the board at us.  I didn't care what her special need was.  She is beautiful!  We talked to Brenda, found out about being a host family and told her we were very interested in hosting Chun Lian.

     On October 3rd I called Brenda to remind her that we were anxious to host this child.  We sent Brenda a copy of our home study.  Chun Lian was supposed to be here November 10th.  We then found out that her file is with an agency in Washington.  Her file needs to be returned to China so she can come for her surgery through AGOL.

Thursday, February 27, 2003

February 27, 2003

     Nicholas, ZoraLin and I went to ZoraLin's orphanage yesterday.  We were accompanied by Lori, McKayla and Becca.  Tiffanie was our translator.



     The ride to Taishan was bumpy.  Nicholas moved to the back of the van so he could "catch" more bumps.  ZoraLin was in her hip hammock and she promptly fell asleep and slept the whole two hours there.

     We traveled through 5 "cities" to reach Taishan.  Tiffanie showed us on the map which cities we would go through, but the map was in Chinese.  I know one of them was Foshan.  I recognized the name from the APC list.  I have seen babies referred from Foshan.

     As we left the White Swan we traveled for about 20 minutes through Guangzhou.  The area was very "city like" with apartment buildings and industrial areas.  Then we exited the city gradually entering more open areas with farm land.  It was sad to see farm land with little shacks that the family's must live in.  As this is spring here in China, the farmers had their soil tilled in preparation of planting.  We did pass some farms that had many things growing.  Those farms also had covers on some of the plants that looked like hot houses or mini green houses.

     We also crossed over the Pearl River again about half way to Taishan.  Tiffanie said that going north on the river you would be in Hong Kong in about 2 hours.  That explains all the boat traffic we have seen from our hotel window.

     As we drove nearer to Taishan we went through a very beautiful mountainous area.  Tiffanie was telling me that Taishan City is a very beautiful city.  It has many generations of people who have left the area and gone abroad to return with money which has helped the city financially.  We could see that as we arrived in Taishan.  The city has many beautiful new buildings as you drive in.  It looked very clean.  It is supposed to be a very diverse area and very wealthy.

     As the driver did not know how to get to the orphanage, Tiffanie called the director who drove his car up so we could follow him.  His car was a Mercedes Benz.



     We had arrived at noon.  Tiffanie said that the orphanage staff is on their break between noon and half past 2pm.  She suggested we invite the director to lunch.  This worried Lori!  She was afraid to eat somewhere that she did not know what we might have.  I said, "Look at all the people here, they are still walking and talking so I can't imagine the food will kill us!"

     We followed the director to the orphanage which was very close to where we had waited for him. As we pulled up to the orphanage, I recognized the front gate from the picture we have.  There was an older woman cleaning the sides of the street leading down to the orphanage.  The streets were very clean.

     Tiffanie visited with the director.  He accepted our invitation to lunch.  We thought that meant that we would go to lunch right away.  The director wanted us to go see the facility right away so we would not have to backtrack after eating.

     We went through a metal gate that entered into the courtyard.  They had it planted with hedges and there were a few playground items.  I recognized the playground area from ZoraLin's referral pictures.  The area was much smaller than it looked in the photos.  The director took us in a metal barred, locked door.  This was his office.  We walked through to a reception area with ornate wood chairs and couches without cushions.  We sat down and the director handed us each a small bottle of water.  Tiffanie then said to give the director our "gifts".  I handed her the duffel of clothes and toothbrushes and she translated to the director what it was.  I then gave her the red bag for the director.  She told him it was his and he smiled and nodded to me.  The bag has a mag light, Kansas notepad, pen and KS tornado magnet.  Of course, they don't open the gifts in front of you.  I then handed her the shopping bag that had 4 bags of goodies for the nannies as she explained to him.




     We were told that we could not take pictures on the second floor where the babies were.  I knew this would happen.  We were then taken up the cement stairs at the end of the building to the 2nd floor.



     As we walked up the stairs, one of the nannies came around the corner.  Tiffanie said that the workers were also on their lunch break.  We reached the top of the stairs and turned left where we then turned into the first door on the left.  Entering the room, there was more workers and a baby in a little "springy" chair with an IV attached to her head.  The IV she was receiving was in a small glass bottle.  I figured it was an antibiotic.  There was also a little girl of about 5 years old standing there.  There was a table with a hot plate and pan with some sort of soup being heated up.  To the right of the room, there was a big window which looked through to the next room.  That room also had long windows so you could see into the next rooms.  It felt like being in a house that was in the process of being built, sort of open without the walls in place, but yet the walls were finished.

     We smiled and said Hello to the workers.  They all had to come look at ZoraLin and fuss over her.  Zora showed no signs of any recognition and seemed content to stay in the hip hammock.

     One nanny then took us in and pointed to a crib and back to Zora.  There was a baby in the crib so I had Tiffanie ask if that was Zora's crib mate?  The worker picked the baby up and said no.  Only one baby per crib.  The baby was smaller than Zora but she looked just like her in the facial features.  There were 4 metal cribs in a cluster.  All 4 had a baby and pile of blankets in it.  The bottoms were covered with a bamboo mat.  To the right of the cribs was an area partially partitioned off with a metal fence that had an opening to the enter the area in the middle of it.  The area, as was the rest of the rooms, had linoleum on the floor.  There was a TV connected to the wall.  It was on, but I did not pay attention to it.  Inside this area was 4 older children.  2 boys and 2 girls.  It was very obvious that these were special needs children.  The older little girl who met us at first turned out to be one of the workers' children.  I waved at the children, they just looked at us with blank stares.



     I asked the caregivers what ZoraLin ate.  They said only formula and cereal.  We remarked that we were surprised she didn't eat table food.  They told Tiffanie that the formula they used was very expensive and very good.  (It was really full of lots of sugar)

     I noticed some walkers against the back wall.  Their cushions were almost black as they were so dirty.  There was a little room back there that looked like a bathroom that was very dirty too.  The floors where the babies cribs and the older children were looked fairly clean.

     We were taken into the next room where there were approximately 12 babies in cribs.  We  were told these babies were about 6 months old.  Then in a smaller room there were 3 babies that were 1 month and 2 months old.  They had these babies all bundled up in clothes and blankets.  The babies were so quiet.  They just lay there looking at us.

     We walked back to the main room where Zora's crib has been.  I had been carrying my camera since the courtyard and I couldn't resist turning it on and snapping a couple of pictures!  I now regret that I did not take more!



     I had seen enough.  So we headed back out on the balcony where I snapped a few photos of the courtyard.  After going back downstairs we took some more photos of the courtyard and Tiffanie took some of us in the courtyard.






     We then took off following the director again.  I thought we were going to lunch, but it turned out we went to the place ZoraLin was found.  It was in a very populated apartment complex by a building with many plants on the sidewalk.  We took some photos and video of the area.  Lori commented to me about how sad it was and asked me if I was affected by it?  I told her that I was, but I felt it was important to visit the place and know as much as I could so if ZoraLin ever has questions.





     We then followed the director to a restaurant for lunch.  We were taken to a private room in the restaurant.  We had told Tiffanie that we wanted to order conservatively and not things like snake or eel!  

     We sat down at a large round table that had a glass lazy Susan on it.  We were first given moist towelettes to wash our hands, then the food started coming!  We were given hot tea and bean curd soup for starters.  The tea was good, but I did not care for the soup.









     Then the main course arrived.  We had cooked vegies with whole shrimp, baked eggplant, sweet and sour pork, a spicy meat entray, fried pork ribs, pastries and fresh fruit.  Zora spilled my soup, fortunately.  We were given the option of chopsticks or a fork.  I tried the chopsticks on my rice and failed miserably even with Tiffanie showing me how!  Nicholas, Lori and McKayla did okay with the chopsticks.  I was surprised at how much Nicholas tried.  Of course, the director was putting things on his plate for Nicholas to try.

     The director then left us to go back to work.  We shook his hand and said goodbye.  It was time for us to head home.  Each "family" had to give Tiffanie 200 RMB for the meal.  It must have covered everything as we were not asked for more and we did not get any back.

     As we were leaving Taishan I tried to to take many photos.  I also whispered to ZoraLin that we were leaving her first home, but hopefully some time we can come back to visit if she ever wants too.

     Our ride home seemed quicker and we were fairly quiet.  Zora slept all the way to the hotel.  I was trying to memorize all the sights we had seen so I might accurately describe them to Zora one day.

Sunday, February 23, 2003

February 23, 2003

     I have written other things down in emails the past two days.  It seems like we have been here for a week when in actuality we have only been here 3 days.

     We are still not adjusted to our time changes.  RaeAnne was wide awake at 3:30AM or so.  She is congested and coughing.  I gave her some Triaminic and next thing I know everyone is up.  So then about 6:30AM we all fall back to sleep except Mark.  I think I will just give up on trying to adjust.  If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, it doesn't.

     We did more shopping today.  We ordered the rest of the granite etchings at Sherry's Place.  Then Nicholas got to try his hand at thumb and palm painting on the street.  A local artist showed him how.  Of course, after he tried his hand at it, then they waned to sell it as a "souvenir" for 30 Yuan!  I turned them down as I had taken photos of him doing it!





     We walked down to Michael's Place.  Visited with him awhile.  Then Nicholas and RaeAnne discovered a new ride at the park.



     Nicholas also had the chance to "pick" out the live snake he could have cooked for him at a restaurant.  He got to hold the snake, but would not carry through with having it cooked for him.





     Tonight we got together with Carol Anne Wall, her husband John and their new daughter Rachel.  A very nice family.  Had a good time visiting with them.



     Tomorrow is the big day.  We will get ZoraLin MeiHe!  We are to meet Peter and his assistant, Tiffany, in the hotel lobby at 8:45AM.  We will go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to do the paper work and get our daughter!  I am starting to be nervous and anxious at the same time.  After spending time with Carol Anne and Rachel tonight, I am ready to hold ZoraLin MeiHe.

Friday, February 21, 2003

February 21, 2003

     We lost the 20th as we went across the International Date Line while we have been trying to sleep.

     We met up with our group in LAX.  All four families are here.  Not all of them are going to stay in Guangzhou for a couple of days.  We also met a couple more families who are with different agency's.  We had to wait for what seemed like forever to get our boarding passes.  We couldn't enter the airport beyond ticketing until then and there wasn't any soda machines we could use.  We were all starving by the time we finally could enter.  So off to McDonald's with Shari's family to eat.  The rest of the group arrived later.




     We hung out at the boarding gate until they let us on the plane.  RaeAnne was one very tired girl.  She fell asleep before we took off and slept pretty good for quite a while.   Thanks to a little boy at RaeAnne's daycare she will be sporting a scratch by her right eye for the trip :(








     We were also detained in the security check point again.  My lead film bag sent them for a loop and Mark had thrown in his toenail kit with scissors in it!  They took the scissors, but he did get the clippers back.

     I have no idea what time is is right now.  Rae, Nicholas and I are awake, Mark is sound asleep.  Nicholas is playing Game Boy, Rae is busy sticking stickers and I am exhausted!  I hope they have our room ready when we get to the White Swan Hotel.

     *A little side note here.  We are packing 4 carry on's, Mark laptop, the diaper bag and the duffel bag with the clothes for the orphanage.  We checked in four suitcases.  Two of them totaled 82.4 pounds.  The other two were 99.4 pounds.  They put a 50# tag on one of the bags!  No carry on only for us!


Wednesday, February 19, 2003

February 19, 2003

     We spent the morning running from room to room, checking and re-checking to make sure we didn't forget anything.  Mark took Wyatt to the vet to board him.  Wyatt knew something was going on.  He ran and hid in his kennel and would not come out!  The cats were also nervous.




     Mark was following me around packing up things I was laying out.  Now I don't know where half my stuff is!  I was going to take a last minute picture of our suitcases, but the next thing I knew-he was loading them in the back of the pickup.  Oh well!  I guess we will have to take a picture of the bags before we check in-in LAX.

     We arrived at the airport and very soon there after, we discovered we had not packed diapers!  No one sold them at the airport, but Mark made a quick call to Janea and she came to our rescue, running out a dozen to us!

     Going through X-ray was interesting.  My film-leadbag made them rescan and search that carry-on.  The woman told me I should have put it in my checked on bag.  Mark's laptop bag was searched and they took him aside to run the wand over his body.  As we were walking to our gate, they paged us to come board the plane!   They were waiting on us!  The kids and I arrived first and we did not have our ID's so they were not going to let us board the plane.  Then they told us to go ahead out to the plane.  Mark finally caught up to us.  They have still not checked our ID's.

     RaeAnne started crying when we were going through the checkpoint, but she has enjoyed the boarding and flight so far.  She is busy putting stickers in her book.  At the rate she is going through them, we might run out!


Sunday, February 16, 2003

February 18, 2003

     Bags are packed, tickets and passports arrived via FedEx this morning.  I finished Nicholas' room today.  The colors look pretty nice.

     We have some rearranging to do in our suitcases in the morning and then off to the airport at 11:30AM.   I still don't think it is really happening.  I think reality will sink in at LAX tomorrow.

     ZoraLin should be in our arms on Sunday!!

February 16, 2003

     The day of departure is getting near.  I have been waiting and dreaming about this trip for over two years.  I don't think it has really sunk in yet.  I am excited and at the same time worried.  The world is such a place of unrest right now, but nothing will keep me from my baby girl!

     We went to the Mall Saturday and purchased a whole duffle bag of clothes for ZoraLin's orphanage.  We also picked up some really neat coffee table books of pictures of Kansas for the orphanage director, our guide and Lin.

     I think I have made a pretty good dent in our packing.  I am about to say "the heck with it" and just pay the overweight fees.  Tomorrow I will look over our agency's recommendation list and finish up.